Vektor’s David DiSanto Responds to Domestic Abuse Allegations
Last month, Katy DiSanto, the wife of Vektor vocalist/guitarist David DiSanto, accused her husband of a consistent pattern of violent and abusive behavior. In addition to a video she posted that shows David picking up Katy and throwing her, loudly verbally berating her and throwing a pillow at her face while she cries, a lengthy statement from Katy leveled several other accusations David’s way, including a history of alcoholism, multiple instances of physical and sexual assault, and vandalization and theft of assets belonging to Katy or the couple. At the time that news broke, Katy had filed a lawsuit against David in family court in Philadelphia and separately had received a Temporary Protection From Abuse Order, resulting in David leaving the couple’s shared home.
Several weeks later, David has finally issued a statement of his own. He has addressed none of Katy’s specific allegations, instead citing “misinformation” that’s going around, blaming his wife for destroying his life, and speaking in general peacekeeping platitudes, such as “be nice to each other,” that attempt (most likely unsuccessfully) to quell flaming tempers on the internet and in real life. You can read that statement in full below, which was posted earlier on Vektor’s Facebook page but has since been deleted.
“There’s a lot of misinformation going on. I tried to stay quiet, but there is too much hatred spawning off of everything. I’ve gotta say something but keep things vague. I need everyone to know that sometimes relationships get tricky and people say and do bad things when things turn sour. I never wanted my life to turn into a dumb reality show/Soap Opera, but here it is. It really demeans the music this band has created. There’s a person who has destroyed this entire band and, (surprise!) it wasn’t me. I honestly feel very embarrassed that I lied for many years trying to save that person, while hurting myself, band mates, friends, and family in the process. All I ask is for all the hatred to stop. That’s all I’ve wanted from the beginning.
“Please don’t get swallowed up in drama. Think for yourself, take the best knowledge you’re presented with and make up your own mind. That’s what Vektor is all about. Personal BS doesn’t have a place in all this. Be nice to each other. Be fair and ethical. I got stuck in a difficult situation, and one 15 second instant of my personal life was blown up on the internet. I’m sure a lot of you out there have lived through something similar, maybe to less of an extreme… Not fun for both sides. I’m lucky to have such supportive friends and family. I don’t want to imagine what would’ve happened to someone who didn’t have that kind of support… Anyone who has something bad to say: Go ahead. I’m sorry for you in the future because it probably means you haven’t been through something like this before. It’s hard, and it will ruin you. I’ve received a lot of hate mail… Please, please, please do not send any hate mail to the other party involved. Don’t even respond to negative comments. Let those people say what they gotta say and let’s be cool to each other. Let’s stop this hatred and move forward. This personal crap, dirty laundry doesn’t belong online or in metal, especially when dealing with false accusations. For the fans… I’ve been talking with Erik. We’re friends again, and we’ll see what happens.”
In a statement to MetalSucks, Katy tells us that she is “feeling less lonely and confused” lately thanks to several folks who have reached out to her as a result of this incident, both survivors of domestic abuse she’s never met and old friends alike. “There’s actually a lot of good coming out of it, and that’s helping me cope with the emotional difficulties.”
We will continue to post updates on this case as we receive them.